Woman Hires Entitled Wedding Planner Who Doesn't Respect Her Wedding Preferences, Bride-To-Be Is Fed Up: ‘She seems to think it’s her way or the highway’

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    She was second for the very reason I'm having an issue with her now: She seems to think it's her way or the highway. The first call I had with her, she went on and on about how she was going to decorate the space, and when I told her I already had ideas for how decor would be handled, her exact words were, "Oh, I didn't think to ask about that."
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    Rant: My wedding planner thinks it's her wedding
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    I ended up hiring a day of coordinator because I realized I'd need to be in two places at once to orchestrate everything on the day and still get dressed and ready. It seemed like it would just be easier to have someone else run the show so I can actually enjoy the day... but nothing about this has been easy.
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    I interviewed a few different coordinators, and had one I really liked. We jived, and she was very much about her business. The only issue was that she'd already had someone booked on my day.
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    The other couple hadn't paid, and so she was very clear that if they paid before the deadline, she'd have to back out. The day before the deadline, the couple paid and I had to go with my second choice.
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    She was second for the very reason I'm having an issue with her now: She seems to think it's her way or the highway. The first call I had with her, she went on and on about how she was going
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    to decorate the space, and when I told her I already had ideas for how decor would be handled, her exact words were, "Oh, I didn't think to ask about that."
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    Now, I want a less than traditional processional, with my groom walking just before me. He'll wait for me halfway down the aisle and we'll walk the rest of the way together. She asked me for the processional order to include in
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    the timeline, but when she put it together and sent it, everyone was out of order. I was but benefit of the doubt. Maybe it was a mistake. I send a polite email addressing that the order was skewed and asked for it to
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    be corrected, and she's more than happy to! ... Except weeks later, she sends the "95% completed" timeline, and the order still hasn't changed. I address it again, still polite, and her response was, "I thought I'd leave it until after the rehearsal in case there was a change, but I can make that revision."
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    The only change I need is to what I asked for!! I'm doing my best not to be a bridezilla, but I just keep thinking that I'm not asking for anything extravagant. All I want is for people to respect my decisions and do the job I'm paying for.
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    This whole process has been long and hard because my venue is a mess, and at this point I just want it to be over. I'm not happy, I'm not excited. I'm just plain off.
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    I should've listened to my fiancé and went to the courthouse. At least then we could've used the wedding budget on the down payment for a house instead.
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    TorturedSwiftie... • 22h ago Send her an email telling her you're not happy with her services and that your understanding was that she was supposed to coordinate your vision, not that you were supposed to follow her
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    suggestions. Thank her for her work so far, tell her you're unhappy that you have clarified your processional order multiple times, and tell her that if she's not willing to follow your design for the day, that you'll dismiss her and hire a
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    new coordinator (whether you actually do or not is your choice, you may feel better going DIY at this rate, or you might be able to book someone else). A wedding planner is someone who helps the bride and groom with their vision and makes
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    recommendations, suggestions, and helps them tailor their ideas. A wedding coordinator simply follows the directions of the bride and groom for the day of the wedding and ensures that the events unfold as the bride and groom have
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    planned. She seems to be confusing her services. Remind her that you have only hired her for coordination services, not for plannning and input.
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    Ehmashoes 22h ago • That's so frustrating and unprofessional. I feel your pain - I'm getting married in my fiancé's home country and we had to hire a wedding planner since we live across an ocean. He's incredibly friendly and has a good eye for design and small details, but it has been a bit of a fight getting (for him) non-traditional elements added.
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    • Britneyismyhom... 22h ago I have employees who do this when they make a mistake- make it seem like it was intentional for a reason. Had they just apologized for the oversight and corrected the issue, I wouldn't think twice. But when they take that tactic it drives me crazy. It's very manipulative and juvenile.
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    . DesertSparkle • 21h ago Can you cut your losses? Definitely speak with her over the phone and reiterate in email that you are not happy with her services and she either needs to get back on track or refund your deposit asap.

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